We have to be somewhere by 12.30 so we have to leave by 12.00. But that’s in the middle of his nap so we should set off at 10.45 at the latest so he can nap in the car. So I should start getting him ready by 10.00 which means he should feed/have his breakfast by 9.30 and he only wakes up from his first nap at 9.00!! 🤔 Soooooo.. I should get ready and pack the car and baby bag at 8.00 when he’s napping…
This is how my day goes now. Is it any wonder the days just pass me by! One of my work colleagues told me to savour every moment because maternity leave absolutely flies by, and she wasn’t joking!
I’ve decided to jot down what our routine is at the moment, so on days when I wonder if I do enough, if we play enough or do enough exciting stuff I can look back with a resounding YES! Or alternatively, so we can mix things up a bit.
This isn’t intended as a guide in what a routine should be. It’s simply what we do and what works for us at the moment. It could all change tomorrow! No judgement or expectations.
6.00 am – Baby wakes up. Daddy cuddles and nappy change.
6.15 am – Put the kettle on, breastfeed
6.30 am – Sit baby on sofa with blanket and toys, put baby TV on, play with toys together, put kettle on again, make coffee
6.45 am – Tidy kitchen, do washing up or put dishes away, start drinking coffee whilst baby is relaxed or take baby in walker or play gym to kitchen with me
7.00 am – Practice tummy time, rolling and sitting up (baby…not me!)
7.15 am – Baby gets bored of playing on the floor. Sit in play gym, play with rattles and beads together. Hoover downstairs and play hoover noise game (switch hoover on and off and watch his change of expression!), fold clean laundry.
7.30 am – Baby gets bored of play gym. Sit back on sofa to watch TV with blanket. Wind down for nap. Start preparing tea (dinner for the Southerners reading this). Preparing weaning purees for baby.
7.45 am – Tickle and cuddle time.
8.00 am – Baby nap time. Finish drinking cold coffee. Get showered/dressed. Put away clean laundry. Tidy rest of house. Pack baby bag for the day. Write a blog post if I have time.
9.00 am – Baby awake, weaning breakfast/breastfeed, nappy change, get dressed
9.45 am – First trip out of the day to baby group, supermarket to do the food shop, walk to the park or village etc…
11.00 am – Baby nap time. Put the kettle on, forget to make hot drink. Drink smoothie. Change pukey set of clothes. Put shopping away. Finish making tea. Whatever other chores crop up. Put dirty laundry in washing machine.
12.30 pm – Baby awake, weaning lunch/breastfeed, nappy change, clothes change if needed
1.00 pm – Second trip out of the day, sometimes meeting friends for lunch or play dates or play at home. If home, then sit in walker and chew on steering wheel, then sit in play gym, play with rattles and beads together, then play on floor or sofa. Put clothes in dryer.
2.30 pm – Baby nap time. If out, then walk around or drive around until baby wakes up. If at home, tidy some more, put the kettle on and make a hot drink.
3.00 pm – Baby awake, breastfeed, nappy change, clothes change if needed.
3.30 pm – Third trip out of the day, often to the park to get some fresh air.
4.00 pm – Play together on sofa with toys, sit in walker and take baby around the house with me, play on the floor. Finish making tea. Drink cold ‘hot’ drink made earlier. Hoover upstairs.
4.30 pm – Weaning tea for baby. Cuddle and tickle time.
5.00 pm – Daddy is home! Daddy play time. Tea time for grown ups. Wash up. Tidy kitchen.
6.00 pm – Baby bedtime routine starts. Bath every few days otherwise sponge wash, moisturise and massage. Pjs on. Breastfeed.
6.30 pm – Baby put to bed and hopefully soon asleep!
7.00 pm – Shattered! Have shower or bath if didn’t manage one today. Tidy toys away. Catch up with daddy. Go for a run (only just started doing this so can’t say it’s a routine yet but it will be!)
9.00 pm – BED TIME! Thank goodness!
Anytime between 1.00am – 5.00 am – Baby generally wakes up once per night for a feed.
Now, when a baby first arrives, new mums are told to forget about the housework and there is certainly a lot to be said for prioritising baby and play over the washing up, but, I’m very house proud and as stereotypical as it may sound, I love being a ‘home maker’ and cooking and keeping everything clean and tidy for myself, my partner and our baby. Moreover, for me, it’s a big part of keeping mentally healthy. It makes me feel purposeful and that’s personally very important.
Sometimes I feel like I’m rushing through the day to fit everything in and perhaps sometimes I need to slow down, take a breath and take everything in but I don’t rush time with our son. He helps me to slow down! Anyone with a baby knows you cannot rush them no matter how hard you try!
I’m also a bit of a stickler for a routine. Of course all the times above are averages, but it’s a very typical day for us. There is absolutely no chance we could keep to that exact schedule! Babies have their own agenda. As parents, flexibility is an invaluable skill to have but I do try to stick to a rough routine, particularly with his naps and bed time, which sometimes can make the day challenging…. but I think it works well for us all.
We go out, we play at home and we have lots of quality time together and when I do chores, he’s always either playing or relaxing under supervision or right by me and watching me. I give him my everything and surely I can’t do more than that! I love every minute of being a mummy, as busy as it keeps me, I wouldn’t have it any other way.